A RED FLAG ABOUT ME.

“If overthinking burned calories, I’d be a supermodel.”

I overthink everything and I mean everything. I’ll replay a conversation we had three days ago and suddenly find a thousand reasons to believe you’re mad at me. I will read one word reply and spend hours trying to figure what I did wrong. I’ll notice you’re quieter than usual and my brain will already be preparing for you to leave. I don’t assume the best, I assume the worst every single time. Basically, because of this red flag I suffer more often in imagination than a reality.

“Overthinking is the art of solving problems you don’t have.”

sometimes, quiet down, I begged my mind, your overthinking is robbing us of joy. But, because somewhere along the way my brain decided that if I prepare for the worst, it won’t hurt as much when it happens. And I think it’s because when something hurts me, I don’t talk about it, I go quiet, I overthink. I become distant. I notice tiny changes in people’s behaviour- one word reply, no call back, a tone and more. And I don’t know how to say it, that it hurts me without feeling like I’m begging to be understood, so I keep it to myself and overthink. I replay everything in my head and blame myself for feeling too much.

“Overthinking is like asking the same question and pressuring yourself for an answer; it usually doesn’t feel good.”

And the people closest to me feel it the most. I know I overanalyze everything they do. The way they joke about me, the tone they have used, whether they meant what they said or if there’s something underneath it, I overthink. Whenever they text ” let me call you in a while” and day passed by, I overthink. Whenever they left me on seen, that double tick doesn’t let me sleep. whenever they silently ignoring me, I overthink about every single conversation and think about where I went wrong. I know I always ask all my friends for their reassurances about our friendships, and sometimes maybe it’s too much to ask for but this is how I am. I am dealing with this overthinking. I’m not trying to be exhausting. I’m just someone who cares too much and has a brain that never lets me rest about it.

I have heard that “Someone who overthink is also someone who overloves” .

According to the above quote, I am sure my closest people can relate to it and can feel it, because they know how much I love them no matter what. So, yes, I request all of you people to take care of ” An Overthinker” because they love you the most. And give them reassurance every time they ask for it.

“The best things happen when you’re not overthinking it.” –

And I am trying not to, but I am overthinking about it too 😛