FRIENDSHIP HAS NO EXPIRY DATE; A FALLACY.

“Enjoy friendships, because it comes with an expiry date too”

Friendship is one most beautiful gifts of being alive. At a younger age friendship starts with sharing of toys, laughter, and curiosity. As we grow, some friendships develop with us for a lifetime. As we grow and take a step in our adulthood we meet more people and friendship starts with sharing secrets, and a lot more. So, why do some friendships change and even end after long periods? We have probably all had friends in our lives who were so involved with us during certain periods that the thought of that person no longer being around seems impossible. I know it’s hard to digest because we grew up believing that “Friendship never dies” but of course, some friendship comes with an expiry date.

“Kahan ab wo pehle si yaariyaan hai,

sabke sir pe zimmedariyaan hai”

Yes, the phrase in the above section is true. As we grow and mature, friends that once “fit” no longer do and we move on. People get busy, some get married, some shift to other states, they start living a new life with new people and forget about the people they left behind. A friendship that lasts a lifetime is those who take efforts for each other and to be in contact. So, when someone tells you that they are too busy, it’s not the reflection of their schedule; it’s a reflection of your spot in their life. And we all need to accept that and move on. Sometimes you give up on people and let them go, not because you don’t care but because they don’t.

“With time they ghost you like you never existed”

Ghost as in not the real ghosts! They are amazing friends but something weird happens in their mind and for no reason, they just disappear and “Ghost” us that is they suddenly don’t text nor call us. The people you’re talking to for hours now will stop replying to you, scary! right? and we are left thinking “what was my fault”. Maybe they get bored of us or lose interest, people whom you consider friends are just form of strangers who contact us when they need us.

Friendships sometimes are not as easy as it seems, were left stranded in the middle of nowhere with just a ray of hope, maybe my friend will be back and I will readily forgive them.

” Jahan dil bhar jaate hain,

wahan bahane mil hi jaate hain”

“It’s okay it’s not necessary that every friend remains your friends forever”

Yes, not every friendship needs to end on a happy note, this is life and not a film. We should accept the gut feelings and this harsh reality some friends can stay in our hearts forever but not in our life. We should not hold it forever just for the sake of what we had for years or we promised to be forever. We all know moving on is hard even if it’s from friendship but it is necessary. Nothing is permanent, there is no forever thing, and like most people, I am also learning to deal with this ” Freinds forever” lie. Yes, friendship comes with an expiry date too.

“Taqleef unki nahi jo bhool chale jaate hain,

takleef unki hai jo peeche reh jaate hain”

And I am one of those “jo peeche reh jaate hain”